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These days I am seeing some articles (Biye: Porashona Sheshe, na Majhei) going on in the women’s pages on this topic, when is the right time for a woman to get married: before or after graduation from college (Undergraduate program). Recently I received an article from a young woman from Dhaka on the same topic. She nicely presented some case studies showing the fact that getting married before graduation seems to be a popular choice but when something unexpected happens (sickness, death, divorce) it leads to much less favorable consequences. Hence she, like other articles I mentioned, came to the conclusion that women should get married only after they have earned their bachelor’s degree. I was wondering is it really that black and white decision? Let’s take a good look on this topic. (more…)

Classic Mother in law-Daughter in law relationship issue is about relationship and its complexities reflecting a personality in joint family living in intimacy which in itself carries a risk of unmet expectations.

Each personality is structured in three ego states such as the Parent ego state, the Child ego state and an Adult ego state. The Parent (P) reflects values, the Adult (A), rational deductions and the Child(C), feelings. Relationships are the inter play of the functional quality of the ego state model in each personality. (more…)

Here is the good news: students studying for a graduate degree (masters, doctorate) have more opportunities for financial aid from both public and private universities compared to undergraduates. The bad news? Money as always is hard to find, requires a lot of research to locate all funding opportunities and might not be enough to meet all the needs. 

Many universities provide financial aid packages as part of the admission package depending your eligibility. The financial aid package may be partially in the form of a scholarship, a loan and can also be in the form of a research or teaching activity award. These awards may cover tuition expenses and provide a monthly stipend. Make sure you read the application materials thoroughly and also visit your potential department website prior to applying to find out details about financial aid.  (more…)

On this Mother’s Day, I pay tribute to all single mothers, especially my own mother, who raised me and my other siblings all by herself since I was eighteen. This is not a pleasant journey for any woman in any parts of the world. But for Bangladeshi mothers it is a dreadful, lonesome path.

Single moms’ in Bangladesh are victims of two situations, economic and social.  Economic limitations grow when the single mother is not properly trained or educated to support her child. After becoming a single mom, she falls into a total confusion of being in the middle of nowhere. Some get married and lead a happy life. Some decide to devote their lives for the sake of their children; lead a life of austerity, self-negation and misery. This is where the social victimization begins.

Because of her economic limitations, she seeks for family help from her parents, brothers and sisters. Her very own family would treat her like an additional burden.  Soon she would face disparagement by others, feel insecured, and lose her sense of pride.

This is not a life that any mom deserves. All single moms please rise up! Find your way of working hard to support yourself and your children instead of waiting for others to help you. There are many types of jobs you can do, many small businesses you can run. If you do not have a college education, come up with a business plan; ask for financial institutions for loan. NGOs these days are quite favorable for women who run their own businesses.

Also, there is no reason for you to stay single for the rest of your life if you happen to find a good partner whom you can count on. Be strong if you want to be happy. People would talk, but won’t help when you need them. Your children would eventually understand your decision; share them your thoughts, be happy, you will have their support too.