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Question:

I am staying in joint family. I got married 3 years back. My Mother in Law always interrupt me whatever I do. She doesn’t allow me to do anything and keep on saying that I don’t do any thing. This is troublesome for me. My husband wants to stay with family. What should I do?

Advice from Ms Khursheed Irfan Ahmed, Family Counselor:

Three years of marriage should give you a say in your family matters. How about consult your husband and then sit together with mother in law to outline your role in house responsibilities and your need for non interference in how you manage this role?

Expressing oneself tactfully is one way of gaining peace in coexistence. Expressing ones care and love for each other will go along way in solving a relationship issue.

After a week or so in Khartoum, we felt as if we had lived there forever. Interspersed between a hectic schedule of meetings and being shuttled from one office to another, we slowly absorbed the rhythm of life in Khartoum. Shopping for cookies, and snacks at the Western style supermarkets, watching students mingle and chat after classes at snack shops, coming across dating couples along the banks of the Nile, having dinner at Sudanese fast food joints and juice bars surrounded by boisterous families, we learnt about life in Khartoum.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It was in the markets however that we got a flavor of real Khartoum. Just like any other city, the markets in Khartoum were the soul of the city. Surrounded by noise, energy and dust, the markets were a bustle with rows and rows of shops, selling items such as dried foods, clothing, souvenirs, shoes, jewelry and more. Some sections of the market were the dominions of women.

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In Adhunika blog, we have been discussing various issues among ourselves, “we” being the people who have access to Internet, technology and education. But we realize that many women in Bangladesh don’t have access to Internet; many don’t even have access to proper education.

Recently I was doing research in order to apply for funding to start a project in Bangladesh. The project is near and dear to my heart and is based on the concept of Empowering Women through Education. It aims to offer advisory and monitory support for girls in the remote areas of Bangladesh to help them get to the next level of education or training. I like to share some findings of the research with our bloggers. (more…)

This picture captures a moment in a women’s football tournament in Bangladesh.

 

Courtesy: Prothom Alo

My deadline should have ‘a deadline’ of its own for me to finish a task on time! I have a tendency of postponing things to the last minute, I feel I need to have that ‘stress’ factor to get things done. There is a term for people like me, which is ‘procrastinator’- someone who postpones work (especially out of habitual carelessness). In my school years I didn’t get in too much trouble for this habit, as I knew I could get by with the last minute study, or brush up on my papers; I would always get out of any situation – no matter how dire the situation was. Don’t think I never promised myself to do work more sensibly when I survived with minimal sleep and lots of cramming at the last minute, the pain was temporary especially followed by ‘mediocre’ grades, but I would end up doing the same thing– which was doing things at the last minute again!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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